This title could be a whole cauldron of disappointment to those who have invested more time in class, hoping they will command higher figures. Probably, those who deem themselves street smart can be tempted to think their turn has finally arrived. This is another enlisting for bitter pills.
This piece of work neither fights intellectual achievements nor endorses the lack of thereof. Instead, I am saying that even those who have never gone to class can learn it and practice it. No one can blame their inability to express this vital skill, to lack of adequate schooling. The grounds are so level that any human being can access the preparation needed. Companies and organizations will pay dearly if you can provide it. I’m talking about working with people.
The ability to work with others is a skill of its kind. Most people are slow to learn it and ready to forget. It is not learned in academic halls but the practical bit of life. There may not be a specific way of handling everyone, so it calls for more observations and deliberate moves to learn what makes other people give their best. He who can master this art will always find a position of usefulness that will make him qualified for financial rewards.
Whereas we cannot give an absolute model that will work for everyone, the following will make you edge out in interpersonal skills:
- A policy of no Criticism.
If there is something that most people cannot handle, it is the sharp and cutting criticisms. Even when they are wrong or guilty, a serving of critical words often does more harm than good, especially if it comes from high up the scalar chain. It is easy to fault-find and complain about people, but we can avoid it by learning more about what could have made them take the turn they took. Try getting to know changes and improvements that will make them do better when confronted by the same situation again. Don’t use failure to judge a character or make someone feel inferior. Human beings find kindness attractive when they are right, but the same, if offered when they make a mistake, will melt their hearts and make them give nothing less than the best in their subsequent approaches to duty.
- Recognition of Achievements.
Don’t believe a statement that people often make that “I don’t like recognition.” This is not true, and in most cases forcing humility. Everyone feels good when their efforts are noted and even rewarded. A simple statement “I like the way you are doing your work” or “I can’t think of a better way to do this than the way you are doing it” will go way higher in encouraging people to put even more effort and precision. If there is an output growth based on the diligence of someone, it serves as a power-up to recognize it. If there’s a loss, even though it is tempting to quibble and criticize, it will be for good that one is encouraged to do better. Let no one suffer want for recognition of their efforts and contributions to make results more colorful. A recognition today will make someone find reasons for more tomorrow, and what this means is success for the organization or the company.
- Sincere Appreciation.
This one can be easily confused with flattery, but it needs not be so. We can make it a habit of looking out for something to appreciate about someone. It may not be related to their job description, but it serves to jump-start them. No one wants to be in places where they are not celebrated. It demonstrates mental problems or serious desperation that people can endure in places where they are not celebrated. No one stays long in places they struggle to fit in. If they cannot fit in based on their prowess, you can make a difference by finding something that can warrant a chivalrous appreciation. Be careful to ensure it is sincere and verifiable and not mere flattery. Nothing is as bad as when people realize that their appreciation is simply cheap flatter.
Try this in your work area, family, and general interaction with people and share the result. Those who can master the art of dealing with people are badly needed assets. You can make a difference by making people safe around you. Handling human beings is not like handling machines. You can handle your car as you wish and shape them through panel beating, but it doesn’t work the same way with people. People hear tones, see attitudes, and recognize the modulation of voice. The ability to get the best out of people is something I want to pay for.