The Worst Side of Depression

Have you ever been depressed before? Have you ever attended to a depressed friend? How was the experience if you were the subject? What if you were the second party, and you could put yourself in your friend’s shoes to empathize and sympathize with them? Or maybe we are not reading from the same page? By the way, what is depression?

Irrespective of discipline, depression is not good news. My academic background has to do with economics, and for an economist, depression means a period of low general economic activity marked especially by rising levels of unemployment. For a biologist, depression can mean a lowering of the physical or mental vitality or functional activity. If you have been in a mathematics class, you may also remember the angles of depression, right? So it may be needful to specify explicitly what aspect of depression we are talking about here since it is obvious it can take different forms.

Depression, defined, is a mood disorder marked by varying degrees of sadness, despair, and loneliness, typically accompanied by inactivity, guilt, loss of concentration, social withdrawal, sleep disturbances, and sometimes suicidal tendencies. Depression can still take various forms, such as clinical depression, major depression, postpartum depression, etc. I am not going to tackle the technical facets of depression which may not be a common factor for all of us, rather mild depression, which every one of us may have experienced in one way or the other.

Life is not a flat surface; the earth is not flat but an oblate sphere. Every day we meet situations that tend to push us off the ground. While we may desire only to get ripe and ready all the time, life sometimes generously empties into our cup bottles of vinegar that scare the life out of our teeth. We have been forced to settle for whatever there is on the table but not our favorite dish. Some of us will have life call them to do a four-year program in six years and earn a title ‘Doc’ like the colleagues in the medical school. What about you, who seems to have a spiritual gift of grooming partners for other people? As soon as you have added value to someone’s daughter or son, someone comes out of nowhere and picks them without caring to leave you a thank you note! In all these, I just wanted to let you know that depressing situations are not uncommon in our lives. Anything that stresses you in one way or another adds to that pool which can turn out on you like a ton of bricks, squeezing life and vitality out of you. So it is not erroneous or clouded with presumptive inaccuracy to conclude that at least every one of us has been depressed in one way or another.

With this background, you should be safe enough for the next phase of this journey. Tighten your mental seat belt and get yourself together for the next terrain, for it may involve a few hills and rills. We want to go to the worst side of depression. What do you think it is? You may be tempted to believe it has to do with degrees, but there are no degrees here.

The Worst Side of Depression
The worst side of depression has to do with our response to the depressants that life serves us. The most damaging effect or results achieved by depression has little to do with how we feel about the situation but the response we come up with, which usually takes more than one face. These responses either come as a cover-up strategy or desperate efforts to float in the deep end with the skills of an armature.
How do you respond to your depressants?
This is the most crucial winning point to help navigate the turbulent waters of depression. Maybe we can try to look at what happens in real life. How does an average human being respond to depression?

Assumption
Many people, often when pushed to the corner of life, employ the strategy of assumption. They just hope that things will fall into place, and they do nothing. The danger with this is the long-term effect of the same. If you are stressed about your teetering performance in school or at work, you cannot solve it by hoping you will do better at the end of the financial year. You must work on your academic strategy and reading culture. If perchance, you are not registering good results because you don’t give your best at work, you may need to put your mind and heart at work. If you assume all will be well, your GPA will keep dwindling, and you may get into a significant depression especially depending on the targets you need to achieve in life. In the same way, you may contribute to the statistics that translate to economists’ understanding of depression (economic depression) when you lose your job.

A serving of Addiction
Perhaps this is the worst response mechanism. Most people are caught up in this, and they have trained themselves to appreciate habits that they cannot easily unfetter. They suppose that a spoonful of their addictions will make a difference and it does not. The majority of anti-teetotalism found themselves in the drinking dens, not because they had some appetite for ethanol, but because they thought they could drown their problems in the intoxicating drink. Painfully enough, their troubles refused to get drunk or get sober as soon they were back to their senses. To see the futility of this mechanism, can you imagine a student who has been discontinued by the University senate trying to confuse their groanings of the soul with a bottle of Johnnie Walker. Do you think the Scottish whisky will do them any better? They will fail in the sobriety test and earn a night in the den of petty offenders, and the following day they will realize they lack the fare home and end up in a logistic failure. This may lead to series of doomsday and gnashing of teeth, and many people seal it with suicide. Alcohol, whoredom, marijuana, or overeating is not the solution. Addiction, like sin, fascinates before it assassinates. You better cry for help.

Giving up on everything.
Some people give up on everything. They don’t want to be involved in anything in life. They don’t eat; they don’t shower; they don’t pick up calls; they don’t want to see anyone. You don’t need to be a genius to realize that this is a recipe for disaster. As you give up on everything and go silent on everyone, you are marching down the valley of death. The kind of suggestions that will build up on your side, are not the best for your stability. You may end up being suicidal. There are times when silence is golden, this is not one of them. Speak out, speak up. There is always someone who wants to hear. They may not have the solution, but their willingness to listen is therapeutic. If there is no one, just have even a monologue. Talk to yourself. Refuse to concentrate on the darkness of the tunnel, but encourage yourself that there’s always light in the end. If necessary you can even weep, for weeping may endure for the night, but joy cometh in the morning.

If you forget everything in this piece, I will ask you to remember one thing: it is not the depressant that is going to kill you, but your response to the same. Refuse to let go. There is always a way out.

17 thoughts on “The Worst Side of Depression

  1. Depressants are with us, almost in all facets of our life. It matters so much our response to them. My response can either degenerate me or develop me.
    Thanks once more Mr. Ossie

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  2. How one responds is what matters… Point home:troubles and problems have always refused to get drunk or sober and even be threatened by any addiction .Give me the Bible holy message shining… All answers are found therein

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  3. I am guilty of the 3 worst sides of depression. I’ve experienced both. But the answer in this article is resolute. Arise and shine💯

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  4. I love the phrase addiction, just like sin, fascinates before it assassinate. We ought to watch out and just like sin for it to be solved we need to address the root cause before healing the physical. Kudos.

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