One of the most prominent challenges of today’s world has to do with matrimonial relationships. Infidelity has raised it’s deformed head with boldness till it is almost becoming a norm. It is not in any way new, but the intensity with which it has come is astounding when compared with the preceding generations. It is like the human race is losing it all together. This has especially been catalysed by the sexual revolution of the 1960s, that challenged the traditional codes of behavior related to sexuality and interpersonal relationships throughout the United States, and which the entire world is emulating without srupple. Sexual liberation included increased acceptance of sex outside of traditional heterosexual, monogamous relationships (primarily marriage).The normalization of contraception and the pill, public nudity, pornography, premarital sex, homosexuality, masturbation, alternative forms of sexuality, and the legalization of abortion all followed.
The consequences of these have not been very clearly penned down. Families are suffering and marriages are breaking up. This is not only affecting the morally loose and indifferent, but also the puritan of 2021. Great and respectful people with lovable traits, have reasons not to trust their spouses, and these have brought about a lot of things. I know of a man who is keeping track of his wife using technology and can know where she is all the time. This is a simple trust issue. By the way do you have trust issues? Sometimes I have seen men ignoring vital signs simply because they don’t want to be dubbed, “he has trust issues”. So we end up believing the inconsistent and impractical. People are so worried especially as modern technology has made it easier for matrimonial thieves to transact without the innocent partner coming to know. People don,t have a no go zone anymore. People don’t respect established institutions.
Now this is not a new thing. In the olden days, having a dime piece as your wife was a little risky, especially when among the heathens. The heathens could kill a man to take his beautiful wife. Abraham while in Egypt, and Isaac while in the land of the philistines while both were escaping a marauding famine, had to conceal their true relationship with Sarah and Rebecca respectively. Their reasoning was simply that because they had beautiful wives, the hosts would not be reluctant to kill them in order to take their women. The fact that this happened twice, is a confirmation that the practice was common especially in the secular set ups of the day—a thing which forced men of faith to lie.
Now as you reason out, do you think God approved what Abraham and his son Isaac did? Abraham could be saying a little truth since they shared the same father, but different mothers with Sarah. What of Isaac? His wife was actually a cousin. Well, you may hold an opinion here, and you are welcomed to share your thoughts with the rest. Meanwhile it’s important to note that God did not approve the lies sustained by the two Patriarchs in order to escape apparent harm. No deviation from strict integrity can meet God’s approval. God is able to make a difference without us having to go through the pains of cunningness. But in these cases we see a merciful God, who knows our frame and who remembers that we’re dust, just but a weak flesh.
What About your case? Is your wife or girlfriend beautiful? Would you need protection because the whole world is chasing her? Well, first we need to agree that all women are beautiful. This should be true, unless you chose yours out of distress or duress. Secondly, the behaviour has not changed. People do not respect the matrimonial beds any better than in the days of Abraham and Isaac. In fact the moral standards are sagging lower and lower than before. At the death of prominent and respected inhabitants of this world, a trend has been that their secret mistresses emerges from the crowd seeking an opportunity to acquire bequest. It’s women who do not have their out of wedlock partners coming out at their demise 😂. If you have seen any, you can share with us.
So how do you ensure you’re the only one drinking water from your own cistern? The case of Abraham is very important in this respect. Remember the King of Egypt actually took Sarah. As Abraham’s heart was breaking, God took the offences against his servant as a personal attack and He generously plagued the house of Pharaoh till he had to take back Abraham’s wife. The great message is in the second scenario in the land of the Philistines:
But God came to Abimelech in a dream by night, and said to him, Behold, thou art but a dead man, for the woman which thou hast taken; for she is a man’s wife. But Abimelech had not come near her: and he said, Lord, wilt thou slay also a righteous nation? Said he not unto me, She is my sister? and she, even she herself said, He is my brother: in the integrity of my heart and innocency of my hands have I done this. And God said unto him in a dream, Yea, I know that thou didst this in the integrity of thy heart; for I also withheld thee from sinning against me: therefore suffered I thee not to touch her. Now therefore restore the man his wife; for he is a prophet, and he shall pray for thee, and thou shalt live: and if thou restore her not, know thou that thou shalt surely die, thou, and all that are thine. —KJV Genesis 20:3-7
Abraham needed not to be insecure. He simply committed all that he had on the Lord’s hand and he got covered. Don’t you think this can work for you too? Abraham was not tracking his wife or seeking information about her or going through her chats to ensure no man is messing around. If you are indeed a man/woman of God, who has committed everything to Him, then worry not about your spouse. Are you dating and keeping a long distance relationship? Don’t employ a CID to give you information about the way they are walking. You need to simply commit them to God and you are safe, before which you must ensure you’re walking with Him.
A servant of God should be so faithful that when someone tries to mess with their spouse, God declares, ” Don’t Touch that woman/man!”
“It is a dangerous thing to wrong one of the children of the King of heaven. The psalmist refers to this chapter in Abraham’s experience when he says, in speaking of the chosen people, that God “reproved kings for their sakes; saying, Touch not Mine anointed, and do My prophets no harm.” Psalm 105:14, 15.”—Patriarchs and Prophets 131.1