The year 2021 was a year full of experience especially in its first two months that are almost now a relic of the past.
The Covid-19 having kept the entire third planet hostage with no discrimination on economies, the positivity, and determination of people to remain true to their resolutions, and many unique things have had their fair share in influencing the tenor of the New Year.
But one thing has been egregiously recorded in the annals of time— the Stingy Men Association, whose motto is: Let me see what I can do! The meme lords had their fair share in creating a current upon which it swam from shore to shore in the cool pools of social media. A situation was presented where many a man buys time when asked to give any financial aid. So imagine when asked to donate $0.1, then an adult responds, “Let me see what I can do”, and this will take forever. The global statistics had it that this association is thriving in Nigeria, but because the world has been made a little village with tech, it has spread like fires of the Savannahs, as men are making their Stingy Men Association IDs.
But my position is simple, that this association is nothing but a Shipwreck of Manhood. What is Manhood without giving? Men seem to have an inherent duty of giving. At Creation, it took the rib of a man that a woman be made. What if Adam was a member of the Stingy Men Association, and he kept telling God, “Let me see what I can do!” He would have consumed the fruits of being a loner. The greatest gift of all time was a bequest of eternal life to the fallen humanity on Calvary. What if Christ was a member of the Stingy Men’s club?
There seems to be some unwritten maxim of Manhood, that Manhood is all about giving. A man is not a man whose effort, time, and money cannot be donated to others, especially women and children. Manhood is giving a hand to those who cannot lift themselves up to the expected standards. Manhood is all about sponsorship and buying a runway for the handicapped. A man is not a man whose hand is glued to his pockets.
And this is not to suggest in any way that men should be sponsoring the revelry of jobless slay queens. Real men must only use their monies on worthy causes. All the men who have become servants of beauty queens, while their families are taking the bitter cup of neglect should regard themselves as failures and should be stripped off of any ties with Manhood. He should get back to the boys club and bud yet again.
I once had a humorous truth, that if all men of the working class concentrated on the affairs of the family, a lot of young unmarried voluptuous wenches would relocate to suburbs.
Manhood is giving, but not to slay queen, let them look for work and their own men. Real men must heed the timeless counsel of King Solomon :
Drink waters out of thine own cistern, and running waters out of thine own well.–King Solomon, Proverbs 5:15-20
Let thy fountains be dispersed abroad, and rivers of waters in the streets. Let them be only thine own, and not strangers’ with thee. Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love.And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
All serious men must run defy the call to join the Stingy Men Association, men must give but not to sponsor the revelry of coquettes! However, if you can’t help but be stingy, then you must find a better variable. You will be praised for being stingy with your time; don’t entertain things not aimed at making you a better man. Be stingy with your romantic advances; don’t create a favorable environment for concubinage to thrive. Prove yourself stingy to free riders who are on the lookout for free lunch.
As a man, you must realize that you are only attractive if you have something to offer. This could be goodwill or in kind. It must not be financials all the time. Some good advice or just some generous attention would be a good move. If it turns out to be a few bucks or a few quids, it will even be more attractive. The bottom line is that a man must give, and the best gift is yourself and your time.